Upcoming events:
3-4 January 2026 -Berlin, IKSK (English)
An intimate journey through the world of pain, where pain and pleasure intertwine in a sacred dance.
An intersection between the science of pain and the ecstatic/trance states that can arise through
deep devotion and inner alchemy.
A guided inner exploration of self empowerment.
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose the response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. “
– Victor Frankl
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What if pain was just information/ source of energy…?
What if you could move it through your body and transform it into ecstatic power?
What if you could consciously choose your response and use it to experience depth and intensity, and perceive your body in a new way?
Pain processing in a safe, conscious, loving, and consensual setting can be an exciting tool for:
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experiencing yourself more deeply
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embodying and perceiving inner strength
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exploring your limits at different levels
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getting “high” on your body’s own drugs
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creating ecstatic-, trance- or transcendent states
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perceive the power of devotion/ surrender
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access and express suppressed emotions
In this workshop, we will embark on a courageous journey through the world of pain and explore the space between stimulus and response. We will practice transforming various pain stimuli into neutral impulses and moving them as energy within the body. We will explore how to transform them into all kinds of things — sexual energy,
emotional release, presence in the here and now, trance...
In this 2 -day workshop, we will explore following topics:
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Various aspects and motives of play with pain
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Neurobiology and psychology of pain processing
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Safety – safe handling of pain, red flags
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Different types of pain
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Basics of body awareness and mindfulness
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Various techniques of pain processing
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Pain play - settings and intentions
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The power of acceptance, inner state of expansion/contraction
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Breathing techniques to support the process
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Different approaches to erotic play with pain
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Pain in D/S settings (dominance & submission)
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Inner alchemy – accepting and transforming stimuli: turn reaction into action
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Methods for transforming pain into pleasure and sexual energy
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Techniques for moving energy through the body
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Powerful energy discharges and full-body orgasms
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Working with archetypes and inner parts
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Pain as a tool for releasing suppressed emotions
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Facilitator:
Jay - embodiment- and conscious kink facilitator, as well as yoga and dance teacher with a scientific background. In her work, she combines ancient eastern traditions, modern research, and her personal experience to help people reclaim their body wisdom and use their bodies as portals to personal growth and transformation, building a multidimensional approach to embodied spirituality.
Rooted in both science and mysticism, Jay holds a degree in biotechnology and spent some years in cancer research before turning toward more embodied and experiential forms of knowledge. She was studying different traditions of yoga and meditation followed by many years of self study and experience in the areas of shamanism, tantra, energy work, and other somatic spiritual practices.
For the past 15 years, Jay has also been deeply immersed in the world of BDSM, exploring dominance and submission (D/s) as a profound mystical technology. She sees conscious kink as a path to shadow integration and ecstatic transformation. Her signature approach — Pain Processing — bridges the neuroscience of pain with the potentiality of deep surrender, ecstatic trance-like states, compassion and inner alchemy. Through conscious work with pain and power play, she helps others access transpersonal experiences and the deepest layers of Self.
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At the heart of Jay’s facilitation is the belief that the body is not just a vehicle, but a portal — a living interface between the material and the mystical. She uses scientific understanding to ground her work, while staying open to the vastness of what science cannot yet explain. Her spaces are invitations to feel more, to explore intensity with presence, and to meet the sacred through the flesh of the body.
I would be honored to guide you on this intimate journey.
Requirements::​
This workshop is open to all gender identities and sexual orientations and is suitable for both,
those who are familiar with BDSM and those who are new to the field.
· It is important to have a trusted partner-person for this workshop, as we will be delving deep into emotional and energetic spaces. Impact play and pain- experiences can cause emotional reactions/triggers, which is why trust and a safe environment are very important.
· Please register as a DUO. Your partner for the workshop should be someone you trust and feel safe with. It does not have to be your romantic/ sexual partner. How far/ intense/ erotic you go in the process is always up to you.
· Partners-Constellations of more than two people are welcome.
· The workshop is designed for switching (swapping roles between taking and giving). If you only want to stay in one role within your constellation, that is of course also possible.
Materials:
Some toys and tools will be provided, but it is recommended that you bring your own (whips/floggers/ canes/paddles/wooden spoons/clamps...) – preferably something that is not only soft and comfortable, but also challenging.
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Disclaimer:
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This workshop can be an intense process and can trigger deep lying emotions and trauma. Participation at your own responsibility.
Questions? Don't hesitate to write me: office@ritualsofsurrender.com
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Terms & Conditions: Terms & Conditions of IKSK Berlin are valid.
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