8-15 November 2025
Ater Tumti, Sicily
“Before you can go deep with someone else you have to go deep with yourself.”
Step beyond the known and enter a realm where Tantra, Mysticism, BDSM and Art merge into a sacred path of transformation. "Rite of Passage" is more than a retreat—it is an initiation, a gateway into deeper intimacy, profound surrender, and the embodiment of your authentic power - not only in D/S play.
We invite you to go deep with yourself first, embracing both the luminous and shadowed aspects of yourself.
This journey is one of radical acceptance, trust, and devotion, guiding you into conscious D/S dynamics that are rooted in presence, love, and surrender.
Foto: Moritz Schachner, www.indivisuals.net
This Retreat is a celebration of movement, somatics, the exploration of altered states of consciousness and kink practices such as rope play, pain processing and various aspects of D/S (Dominance/Submission)
based on tantric philosophy and values.
Diving down this rabbit hole, we will equip you with deep talks, practices and knowledge –
about what D/S can actually be at the cutting edge between art, kink, personal growth and queer-feminism.
What Awaits You:
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Cultivating Surrender States & Trust – Cultivating safety, attunement, and the inner state of openness necessary for meaningful D/S and tantric encounters.
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Power & Devotion – Exploring both dominance and submission as sacred archetypes, reclaiming the parts of self that have been cast into shadow.
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Pain, Breath & Ropes as a Portals – Harnessing sensation and breath as tools for deepening presence, surrender, and altered states of consciousness.
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Twilight Language in Tantra & D/S – The subtle yet powerful use of words, sounds & breath to create transformative experiences.
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Mystical Embodiment & Movement – Engaging in movement, positioning, and body handling to embody the primal essence of various archetypes in your play
We will explore:
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Tantric Yoga, Meditation & Orgasmic Breathing – Awakening energy flow and deepening intimacy with your body.
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Sensual Somatics – Cultivating awareness, playfulness, and erotic intelligence through the body.
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Rope Play – Exploring the art of tying and being tied, discovering surrender and connection through rope.
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Deep Talks – Deep conversations on the potential of personal transformation of tantra and power dynamics.
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Pain Processing – Learning to transmute pain into pleasure, presence, and transcendence.
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D/S play - Explore dominance, submission and surrender states from the perspective of a sacred art form
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Erotic Blueprints & Core Erotic Themes – Uncovering your unique erotic language and “un-shadow” desires.
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Ritual – Inviting reverence into D/S encounters, discovering the beauty of offering and receiving.
For Whom?
Inclusivity
The retreat is open to all gender identities, sexual (non-) orientations and to all ethnic & socio-cultural backgrounds.
Small Community vibes
You prefer the intimacy, in-depth designed process, and individual guidance of two experienced facilitators, rather than big festival vibes with multiple teachers.
In-Depth Journey and Multidimensionality
Are you looking for depth in your encounters and experiences? Our approach to bdsm is intertwined with personal growth, self-inquiry, embodiment practices and spirituality. We address all layers of Self and respect the complexity and uniqueness of your journey.
Eroticism as an art form
Are you looking for a space, where diverse and creative expressions of eroticism, sensuality and intensity are welcome AND want to feel safe? We are a queer-feminist collective and are aware of the biases and one-way streets, that pornography offers, also in the segment of bdsm. One of our goals is to rewrite the approach and expression of bdsm practices, especially d/s dynamics. Therefore, this retreat is NOT a sex-positive space. Explicit sexuality (focus on penetration, nudity, genitals) is not welcome.
Attend as partners or solo
There will be group-, partner-, and solo exercises. You are welcome to register alone, in pairs or tribes (with partner(s) /friend(s)/ lover(s)). Registered pairs/tribes can, but do not have to swap partners for exercises. Registered solos will be assigned to our "buddy system" (more info upon registration) and are self-responsible to choose a buddy and partner(s) for exercises.
Requirements & Level
This retreat is “intermediate level” designed and can be intense
Intermediate means we expect you to have skills & experience in conscious communication and consent building, approved strategies for apologizing (in case something doesn´t go as planned). Physical/emotional/mental/spiritual self-regulation skills are mandatory for participation. Also skills & experience in navigating and taking responsibility for your process within a group setting and group dynamics is mandatory. Achieving these skills is not a part of the retreat. We strongly advice you to have participated in min. 3 group workshops on any topic about conscious relating & intimacy before joining the retreat.
The topics (ropes, pain, etc.) itself are open level designed
We are covering a broad field in this retreat and we are prepared to give individual advice in case you are a beginner or an advanced practitioner in a particular topic.
Physical & Mental Health
Our approach is in general quite somatic and movement affine. If you happen to have injuries or disabilities, please reach out to us before you register.
If you happen to be affected by any kind of personality disorder, traumata/PTSD or similar, please reach out to us before you register. Tantric practices and D/S can have a very powerful psychological and emotional impact and require a certain mental and emotional stability.
Retreat Location
"Welcome to heaven on earth - Ater Tumti Sicily, Italy”
A magical place surrounded by nature on the slope of Mount Etna. The fire power of the volcano will recharge and strengthen us during our retreat - as well as the power of the water as we are the ionian sea with its beautiful sunrises and sunsets.
A centre of healing and learning in an environment that is so beautiful and nurturing, that even the deepest of wounds can be recognized and the healing process lovingly held and supported.
Ater Tumti has 15 hectares of land with forest, olive groves, flowers, lush gardens and traditional drywalls terraces. The retreat center consists of villas, apartments and tiny houses surrounded by nature, swimming pool and multiple jacuzzis - and a beautiful 200qm shala that gives us space to practice and play.
As our retreat center is located on the slope of mount Etna, we don't want to miss out on visiting this amazing site and recharging with some volcanic energy. During our day off there will be an optional excursion, half a day max., so you will have time to relax and integrate as well.
Accommodation
The retreat center consists of villas, apartments and tiny houses surrounded by nature. There are different accommodation options and the price depends on how many people you share your space with.
It is possible to choose between Single room/ Double room/ Triple room/ Quadruple room/ Dormitory.
For more information regarding the accommodation, please visit the Ater Tumti Websiste:
Meals
ATER TUMTI provides three vegetarian meals a day. The retreat meals will be entrusted in the hands of the local chefs, who will delight the palate of all with genuine and delicious dishes with quality raw materials, chosen from local shops and producers, following the rhythms of nature and our seasonal vegetable garden. It is possible to cater for special dietary needs, such as vegan diets or intolerances if specified in advance.
Pricing
1) Retreat (all Classes, Workshops & Talks):
750€ (regular price) or
850€ (support price)
(Social ticket upon request)
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2) Accommodation (7 nights) & Meals - depending on accommodation type
971€ Single room
696€ Double room
591€ Triple room
486€ Quadruple rooms
451€ Dormintory rooms
Included in the price:
Retreat Package = (Retreat + Accommodation) with all classes and workshops, 7 nights incl. vegetarian/vegan, regional meals (breakfast, lunch & dinner).
Not included:
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Transport to the retreat location (shuttle available)
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Optional excursion to Mount Etna on your free day (info upon registration)
Start: Saturday 8th of November 2025: Start 5 pm (tba)
End: Saturday 15th of November 2025: End 12 noon (tba)
Application for the Retreat
Participation in this retreat is by application only, ensuring a shared commitment to safety, depth, and transformation. If you feel called to step into this initiation, we invite you to reflect on the following questions in your application (via Email):
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Experience – Since when have you been engaged in conscious communication and conscious intimacy practices?
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Intention & Interest – What draws you to Tantra, BDSM, D/S play, or other forms of erotic and spiritual exploration?
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Personal Inquiry – What themes or inner processes are you bringing into this retreat? How do you wish to grow?
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Preferred Accommodation – Let us know about your preferred accommodation category. You will be able to choose your favorite option - first come, first serve.
Booking & Cancellation Policy
Terms & Conditions:
Your spot will be reserved once we’ve received your application email with your personal reflections on the questions listed under “Application for the Retreat.”
The next step is to transfer the retreat fee as outlined under “Pricing” (750 € regular / 850 € supporter). You will receive our bank details via email after we confirm your application.
Please wait with booking your travel until we confirm that the minimum group size of 10 participants has been reached.
If the retreat cannot take place, you will receive a full refund of your payment. If you cancel your registration by September 15th, 2025, we will refund 50% of your retreat fee.
We strongly recommend that all participants take out travel insurance to cover potential cancellations due to unforeseen circumstances.